A certain incident at work has triggered a debate within myself. While I completely agree that one has to avoid being too sensitive at work and try to take all the trials n tribulations of in your stride, yet there are certain unanswered questions. I am not subscribing to be an emotional achar but still can take care not to kill your basic etiquette.
A not so great conversation with the senior management turned out to be an emotional turmoil within myself while the other person involved was pretty curt. A well wisher advised me that if you want to climb up the corporate ladder than you have to learn to detach yourself and not get impacted. I am definitely not the tear-jerking types where my eyes start welling up at each and every discussion. When somebody whom you respect talks otherwise, I do get worked up as the person involved is somebody whom I have always held in high esteem.
Its not an easy job managing young people who have stepped out of their colleges to make a career with us. The dynamics have changed, you can't be a big boss always and need to be someone they can open up to and yet have the same respect. Is it possible to do that by being devoid of emotions?
My personal opinion is that people are your greatest assets and if you are not emotional about certain things, you will always remain a boss to them. I have seen great leaders who were pretty composed about life threatening situations and yet managed not to show their ire on their sub-ordinates. Is it too much to ask in today's world? I do not know if people find that its cool to be clinical.
Everyone has a right to express their discontent but there is way to put things in the right perspective. When you start expecting such basic things, your maturity is questioned. It seems that if somebody is emotional about certain things, then they are not mature enough to handle.
Yes, I choose not to loose my emotional quotient in this bloody corporate world. If something hurts me, I will let the other person know about my feelings. I choose not to sulk within and indulge in petty politics to satisfy my so called ego. Yes...I would rather be called an emotional fool than a scrupulous person. I will do my bit to ensure that people do not loose faith in such tough times and growth is not measured by how emotional or clinical one is but by the quality of the work that one does.
Yes..I choose to remain a human. I guess robots will not be as clinical people can be :p
PS: The views expressed in this post are completely mine and do not intend to hurt anyone. I respect the fact each person will have their own perspective :)
A not so great conversation with the senior management turned out to be an emotional turmoil within myself while the other person involved was pretty curt. A well wisher advised me that if you want to climb up the corporate ladder than you have to learn to detach yourself and not get impacted. I am definitely not the tear-jerking types where my eyes start welling up at each and every discussion. When somebody whom you respect talks otherwise, I do get worked up as the person involved is somebody whom I have always held in high esteem.
Its not an easy job managing young people who have stepped out of their colleges to make a career with us. The dynamics have changed, you can't be a big boss always and need to be someone they can open up to and yet have the same respect. Is it possible to do that by being devoid of emotions?
My personal opinion is that people are your greatest assets and if you are not emotional about certain things, you will always remain a boss to them. I have seen great leaders who were pretty composed about life threatening situations and yet managed not to show their ire on their sub-ordinates. Is it too much to ask in today's world? I do not know if people find that its cool to be clinical.
Everyone has a right to express their discontent but there is way to put things in the right perspective. When you start expecting such basic things, your maturity is questioned. It seems that if somebody is emotional about certain things, then they are not mature enough to handle.
Yes, I choose not to loose my emotional quotient in this bloody corporate world. If something hurts me, I will let the other person know about my feelings. I choose not to sulk within and indulge in petty politics to satisfy my so called ego. Yes...I would rather be called an emotional fool than a scrupulous person. I will do my bit to ensure that people do not loose faith in such tough times and growth is not measured by how emotional or clinical one is but by the quality of the work that one does.
Yes..I choose to remain a human. I guess robots will not be as clinical people can be :p
PS: The views expressed in this post are completely mine and do not intend to hurt anyone. I respect the fact each person will have their own perspective :)
5 comments:
You know, all this is sweet talk, and its better said than done. Though we would all love to be this way, all goodie goodie to our juniors and subordinates, but when it comes to getting the thing done, we need to put pressure on them, as our peers would put on us, because if we don't we are at the receiving end most of the time.
But then again, these are my viewpoints, that always trying to be good makes us a fool and finally used because we tried.
Regards,
Blasphemous Aesthete
@BA..I am not of the opinion that you need to be good all the time and its practically impossible to be in the good books of all your folks but EQ is as important as IQ. Many a times your sub-ordinates will understand the pressure when you explain whats the deal. When you are at a higher management level, all that matters is profits and ROI..there is hardly any room for human emotions..sigh!
Flowing straight in this world is not possible..you take some curves and turns to make your ride reach the destination.
And yes everyone do have their own perspective but sometimes they go too blind and then we might have to make them come to a point where they can chance upon what you call realisation.
Hi Lilangel,
nice post. .your name reminds me of my frnd I used to call her with.
hmm boss and their attitude are something which is a gossip point. .always.
personally if I look, I would say a boss is a frnd 1st. .if he doesnt fit. this basic criteria. .he is not gonna be a good boss..he or she must gwell with his team. .to help them overcome from their weak area and. .so there is a growth..which is not baised..n the result will be amazing. .so. .a sync need to be there. .and it should be transparent process.
Though its hard to get it..but who follows this basic principle is successful.
Thanks for stopping by and liking my blog
take care
vivek
@Alcina...I agree...you need to do your twist to reach the goals :)
@Vivek - Thanks for stopping by :) Boss being a fren is great...but difficult to find everywhere..hope you are among the fortunate few :)
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